Dear Diary,
I’m gonna play devil’s advocate here…at the very least he’s being honest. He has expressed that he doesn’t want a commitment…he just wants sex with the possibility of “getting to know each other”…whatever that means to him. Some people are ok with this. No judgement for those that are. But what about those of us who aren’t?
The good part is that you were upfront with him. You told him that’s not what you’re looking for. Now it’s up to you. Do you choose to settle for something less than you deserve and stick around…or maintain your standards and walk away. To me it’s a no brainer – walk away.
Here’s something else that has been troubling my soul. Woman. There is absolutely no reason that you should feel bad for expressing your wants and/or needs. I think sometimes females tend to feel guilty about telling men what we want and so we opt to “go with the flow” and settle for whatever we can get. Where this guilt comes from, I don’t know. We think our desires place pressure on them. Maybe it does. So what. Perhaps we believe that in refraining from expressing ourselves we are less likely to frighten them off. But I wonder, do men ever feel this type of guilt or angst for expressing what they want? Does the fear of losing the chance to be with us plague their thoughts or disrupt their sleep…does it phase them at all?
Hmmmmm…
-Elesha
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